And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him – Genesis 2:18
A wife is meant to be her husband’s companion, helper, not his subordinate. God created Eve from Adam’s rib which is in his side. This means that she was side by side with him, not ahead or behind. And when God brought her to Adam, Adam declared that, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she will be called Woman, for she was taken out of Man.” She was a part of him. Verse 24 states: Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and they will become one flesh. They were one.
Marriage was instituted because man wasn’t meant to be alone. All of God’s other creation had their counterpart. Only Adam didn’t have a mate. God saw that and He created Eve for him. A wife compliments her husband. She’s not his servant but his support. The word, “ezer,” which is used for “helper or help meet is also used for God in Exodus 18:4. Jesus referred to the Holy Spirit as the Helper (John 14:16, 26; 15:26; 16:7). We know that the Holy Spirit is equal to the Father and the Son.
A wife is there to support, aid, encourage and advise her husband. When Sarah told Abraham to send Ishmael and Hagar away, he was reluctant to do so, but God advised him to listen to her. Pilate’s wife offered wise counsel regarding Jesus. Proverbs 18:22 says, He who finds a wife finds a good thing. Husbands are encouraged to love their wives as themselves. In other words, love her who is bone of your bones and flesh of your flesh (Genesis 2:23).