After four years of studying at university, it was time for a carefree vacation.
This was written for the Weekend Writing Prompt by Sammi Cox. For instructions, click Here.
After four years of studying at university, it was time for a carefree vacation.
This was written for the Weekend Writing Prompt by Sammi Cox. For instructions, click Here.
Charmaine was waiting at the bus stop on her way home when a sleek black Rolls Royce drew up. As she stared curiously at it, the window rolled down and Dorian Breckenridge stuck his head out. Immediately, her heart began to pound wildly. He had that effect on her. He was her best friend, Ella’s uncle. They met last year at Ella’s brother’s wedding.
For Charmaine the attraction was immediate. All evening she watched him, thinking how foolish she was to set her sights on a man who was out of her league. He was very handsome, sophisticated and much older than her. He was seen in the company of beautiful and elegant women. She was just a university student still living at home with her parents. There was no way that a man like him would be attracted to her. To him, she was just a girl, the same age as his niece.
She walked over to the car now and stared down at him, her heart melting when he smiled up at her. “Where are you heading?” he asked.
“I’m on my way home.”
“Hop in,” he said, “I’ll give you a lift.” He quickly got out of the car and held open the door for her to climb in. He slid in beside her and closed the door. As the car merged into the traffic, he tapped on the glass partition. “Henry, we’re going to be making a stop.” He turned to her, “What’s your address?” After she gave it to him, he relayed it to Henry who nodded before closing the partition.
She glanced shyly at him, wondering if her heart would fall out of her chest because it was beating so hard and fast. Her hands were clasped tightly together in her lap because she was afraid that he would notice that they were trembling. “Thank you for the lift,” she said.
He smiled. “It’s my pleasure,” he assured her. His eyes flickered over her small frame, thinking how lovely she was. Straight, long hair framed a beautiful face with the most amazing eyes he had ever seen. His fingers itched to caress her face, curious to see if the skin felt as soft and smooth as it looked. Forget it, he chided himself, she’s too young for you. He quickly turned his head and gazed out of the window, a muscle throbbing along his jaw-line. “How have you been?”
“I’ve been busy with my studies,” she said, looking at him, unable to help herself. He had thick dark auburn hair with grey at the sides, making him even more attractive.
“What are you studying?” he asked. He turned to look at her.
“Which area of journalism are you interested in?”
“Print. I’m like writing. Ella was encouraging me to do Broadcast but I’m way too shy to be in front of a camera.”
He smiled. “When do you graduate?”
“Next year June.”
“So, what do you like to do when you’re not studying?”
“I read a lot. I just finished reading a book about Rube Goldberg. One of the things that struck me about him was how badly he wanted to go to New York City because it was the perfect place for cartoonists. It took a lot of courage for him to leave the West Coast where his cartoons were growing in popularity to go to New York City although he hadn’t received an offer from a publisher there. I don’t think I could just leave my family and friends and move to another city without any job offers.”
“I personally believe that if you want something badly enough, you must be willing to take a chance for it. Are you free Saturday evening?” he heard himself ask. He had to see her again. It wasn’t enough seeing her occasionally at parties, dinners and barbecues. He wanted to see much more of her. In fact, in spite of their age difference, he was seriously considering having a relationship with her.
She nodded, her eyes questioning as they met his.
“Would you like to go with me to see Carmen?”
Pulse racing, she nodded again, unable to hide the excitement in her eyes. “Yes.”
“Good. I’ll pick you up at five.”
They had reached her house and he got out of the car to hold the door open for her. As she climbed out, their eyes met and held for several minutes. “Th-thank you for the ride,” she stammered, her heart racing.
His eyes darkened on her face. “Don’t mention it,” he said quietly. “I’ll see you on Saturday.”
“Yes.” She turned and walked quickly to the front door, pausing to watch the Rolls Royce as it drove away. A big smile broke out on her face. Dorian Breckenridge had asked her to go to the opera with him. He had asked her out on a date. She couldn’t believe it. When she let herself in, she had to turn on the light beside the door. Her parents were on vacation in Miami so she had the house all to herself. As she climbed the stairs to her room, she kept replaying in her mind, the words, would you like to go with me to see Carmen? Then her thoughts turned to what she was going to wear.
As soon as she got to her room, she made a beeline for the wardrobe and looked through the clothes hanging there until she came across a burgundy lace dress with long sleeves. This would do nicely, she thought. It reached her just above the knees.
She wanted to call Ella and tell her about the date but decided that it would be best to keep it to herself. Besides, she didn’t know if anything would come of it. For all she knew he had intended to take someone else but she couldn’t make it so he asked her instead because he didn’t want the tickets to go to waste. She brushed aside the negative thoughts and after taking a quick shower, she went downstairs and fixed herself dinner. Afterwards, she relaxed on the sofa, the television on but her mind elsewhere. She willed Saturday to come quickly so that she could see Dorian again. She didn’t know how she would be able to concentrate on her studies. At eleven, she went to bed but lay awake for a while before finally falling asleep.
The following day at university, she went through the motions and was relieved when it was over and she went home. She washed her hair and set her dress out and the shoes she was going to wear with it. That night she was too excited to sleep and it was after one in the morning when she drifted off. She got up early and busied herself with cleaning the house and laundry. The day seemed to drag but soon it was time to get ready. Excited, she showered and put on her dress. It fitted her snugly and she pulled her hair back in a French twist with a few strands across her forehead. No makeup, only lip-gloss. Tiny gold earrings studs in her ears were the only pieces of jewelry she wore.
Satisfied with how she looked, she grabbed her handbag and went downstairs. She opened the coat closet and was just buttoning her coat when the doorbell rang. Heart racing, she went into the foyer and opened the door. Dorian stood there, smiling at her. “Good evening,” he said.
“Good evening.” She turned and locked the front door before she preceded him down the steps. As she got closer to the parked car, she realized that it wasn’t the Rolls Royce. It was a different car.
“It’s just the two of us this time,” he remarked as he held the door open for her. “And I thought it would be nice to drive my own car for a change.”
She smiled as she climbed into the car, delighted that they were going to be alone. As she settled in the seat and fastened her seat-belt, she was tempted to pinch herself. She still couldn’t believe that she was going out with him.
“Carmen is over three hours long so I made reservations for dinner first at a nearby restaurant,” he said when he got in the car. “I hope you don’t mind.”
She shook her head at once. “No, I don’t mind at all.” It thrilled her to no end that she was going to have dinner with him. He took her to a classic French brasserie in the heart of Covent Garden’s opera quarter. Its true Parisian style décor and warm welcoming atmosphere made the restaurant an instant favorite for her.
She smiled when she saw his eyes travel over her after he helped her off with her coat. As they followed the waiter to a table near the window, she felt his hand on her elbow and when he held her chair out for her, he murmured quietly, “You look very lovely.”
“Thank you.” His compliment stirred all sorts of feelings in her and she fit a curious sensation at the pit of her stomach and she was thankful to sit down because her knees felt weak. When he sat down, she couldn’t help admiring how he looked in the charcoal grey suit and a black turtleneck sweater. He oozed class and sophistication.
“I’m afraid we have only an hour to have our dinner,” he said apologetically after the waitress brought the menus. “Fortunately, it’s less than a five minute walk to the theatre.”
They had only the main course from the theater menu and skipped dessert. It was a quarter to seven when they reached the theater. Charmaine had never been to the theater before so she was very excited when she walked into the auditorium and saw the red curtains of the stage, the stunning ceiling, the glittering gold of the proscenium arch and the red and gold lights. Dorian smiled when he saw her gazing around her in wonderment. “This is the first time I’ve ever been in a theater,” she told him as she saw down.
He settled his tall frame beside her. It pleased him that her first experience at the theatre was with him. There were so many wonderful things he wanted her to experience with him but for the present, he wanted her to enjoy this moment. The lights began to dim and he settled back in his seat. The curtains rose and the show began.
During the intermission, he leaned over and inquired, “So, are you enjoying it?”
She turned to him, her eyes shining. “Yes,” she said. “I love the singing, the story, the costumes—everything.”
He smiled. “Good.”
They talked a little about the show and then it was time for it resume. At the end, there was thunderous applause and a standing ovation. Charmaine blinked back the tears as she clapped. As Dorian helped her with her coat, she remarked, “Although it ended in tragedy, next to Romeo and Juliet, Carmen has become one of my favorite love stories. I felt sorry for Micaëla who loved Don Joséand I felt sorry for him because of how Carmen treated him.”
“Yes, it would have been best for the three of them if Don José and Carmen had never met.”
They walked to the car which, thankfully, was not parked far from the theater. The temperature seemed to have dropped and she was grateful for the warmth of the car. When they were standing outside of her parents’ home, she turned to face him after unlocking the door and turning on the porch light so that they could see each other clearly. “Thank you for a lovely evening,” she said huskily.
He looked her, “It was my pleasure,” he told her quietly. “Charmaine, how do you feel about being in a relationship with a man who is much older than you?”
She swallowed hard, her heart pounding. “On top of the world,” she informed him.
He reached for her hands and drew her closer to him, his eyes gazing into hers. “I’ve wanted to be in a relationship with you ever since we met but our age difference prevented me but this evening I made up my mind that I was going to follow my heart.”
“I’m happy you did,” she confessed. “For the longest time, I’ve wanted you to notice me but didn’t think I stood a chance—not when you were used to be around older and more glamorous women.”
“The first time I saw you, my heart skipped a beat and whispered to me, ‘she’s the one’. When I was with those other women, my mind was filled with thoughts about you and my heart ached to see you again. And every time we saw each other, we never had a chance to be alone. It was quite by chance that I saw you on Tuesday. Usually, I would have my face buried in a newspaper or papers but I didn’t feel like doing anything except to relax and enjoy the ride. When I spotted you at the bus-stop, I couldn’t believe my luck and seized the opportunity to be with you. And as for the tickets to Carmen, I ordered those after we dropped you home. Fortunately, the seats hadn’t filled up as yet. Carmen was my excuse to see you again.”
“It was by pure chance that I was waiting at the bus-stop. Usually, I would take the tube because it was faster but I decided to take the bus instead because it was a nice, mild day. When I saw you, I was so thrilled because I didn’t know how long I would have to wait before I saw you again.”
“Well, we don’t have to wait to see each other,” he said huskily. “If you’re free tomorrow, I would like to take you to the British Museum and then for lunch afterwards.”
“I’m free tomorrow and every afternoon during the week,” she told him. “I’ve never been to the British Museum.”
“Then, it’s settled. I’ll pick you up at eight. Goodnight, Charmaine.”
“Goodnight, Dorian.” He was holding her hands and staring into her eyes. Was he going to kiss her? With all her heart, she hoped so. It would be the perfect end to a perfect evening.
As if he had read her mind, he lowered his head and kissed her. It was tentative at first but when he felt her eager response, it deepened. He released her hands to cup her face as his lips moved passionately on hers. She put her arms around his waist and pressed against him, her senses spinning. How true the words, “No one ever fell in love without being a little bit brave.” She concluded that she must be very brave because when she fell in love with Dorian she had no clue that he felt the same way.
Gloria was walking down the sidewalk after visiting her grandmother in the nursing home when she ran into David Mansfield. He was heading into a café when he spotted her. Smiling, he walked over to her. “Hello, Gloria,” he said.
She smiled at him. “Professor Mansfield.”
“Please call me David. It makes me feel less old,” he said. “How are you?”
“I’m fine, David,” she said. Dressed in a black shirt and tan colored slacks, he looked very attractive. He was twenty years her senior and a widower with a teenage son. He used to be her History professor. “I just came from visiting my grandmother.”
“How is she?”
“It’s hard to see a woman who was once very active confined to a wheelchair.”
“I was just about to grab a cappuccino. Would you like to join me?”
She nodded and followed him into the café. They found a table at the back by the window. “The good thing is her mind is still agile and she can remember things I have forgotten.”
“That’s good. My mother had Alzheimer’s. It was sad seeing her mind deteriorate. It was tough on my father. He died soon after. They had been married for over sixty years.”
“Sixty years. That’s wonderful. My parents got divorced ten years ago. My father remarried and lives in Seattle and my mother has started dating again. I hope that when I get married, it will last.”
“In my case it was death, not divorce.”
“How did she die?”
“It happened quite suddenly. She was running up the stairs to answer the phone when she missed a step, fell and struck her head. Mrs. Moore, our housekeeper found her. Mark was at school. It was a great shock for all of us. This happened a week shy of her fortieth birthday.”
“I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine what it must be like to lose a spouse or a parent. How is your son doing?”
“Oh, he’s doing well. He’s studying in Germany.”
“Good for him. I always wondered what it would have been like to study abroad. Sometimes I wished I had.”
“I’m happy you didn’t,” he said quietly. “I wouldn’t have met you if you had.”
“Now that you mention it, I’m happy I didn’t study abroad either.” She returned his gaze, feeling her heart beat a little faster. “I guess there’s no harm in me telling you this now, but I was very attracted to you. I used to look forward to seeing you twice a week. I was very sorry when the semester was over and when I graduated I wondered if I would ever see you again. I was tempted to email you and ask you to have a cup of cappuccino with me.”
“And here we are having that cup of cappuccino.” A pause and then, “So, where do we go from here?”
“Wherever you would like,” she said. She was flirting with him and it was exhilarating.
“I have a confession to make,” he said, leaning over. “I was attracted to you too but I couldn’t allow myself to entertain any thoughts of having a relationship with you because it was against the university’s policy. It was tough, though, walking into the classroom and seeing you. After you graduated, I thought about you and wondered how you were doing. I was sorry that I didn’t ask you to keep in touch.”
“Bumping into each other like this wasn’t an accident. I believe it was God’s doing.”
“I’m very thankful to Him. Are you free this evening?”
“Have dinner with me.”
“Yes.” She took out a slip of paper, wrote her number and address on it and handed it to him.
“You know after Alice died, I never thought I would be interested in anyone else.”
“You must have loved her very much.”
He nodded. “Yes, I did. She was my first love.”
“I have heard it said that it is your first love that is very difficult to forget and that it will never die.” If he decides that he wants to have a relationship with me, will he always compare Alice and me? She wondered, her heart sinking at the thought.
“The memory of a first love never fades. It stays with you.”
“Yes, I suppose it does.” She finished her cappuccino and stood up. “I’m afraid I have to go now.”
“I’ll pick you up at seven,” he said, rising to his feet and looking down at her, his expression inscrutable. “It was really nice seeing you again, Gloria.”
She smiled and held out her hand. “It was nice seeing you again, David.”
He took her hand. “You don’t mind going out with a man almost twice your age, do you?”
She shook her head, her pulse racing. His hand felt warm against hers and his thumb was rubbing against the back, stirring all sorts of sensations in her. “No, I don’t,” she assured him breathlessly. The waitress came over to the table at that moment and he released her hand. “I’ll see you later,” she said before turning and walking away.
As she walked to the subway, she wondered if she was not making a mistake getting involved with a man who was still in love with his deceased wife. She wrestled with herself. Her mind was warning her that she could get hurt but her heart was urging her to go for it. Her heart won the battle. The desire to be with him outweighed her reservations and she made up her mind that she would go out with him. Her friends would probably have a lot to say about it but she didn’t care. It was her life to do what she wished with it.
As soon as she got home, she went to her wardrobe to see which outfit she could wear and settled on the red jersey dress. After she straightened the place, she took a shower and got ready. She opted to wear her hair up, with a few tendrils framing her face. A pair of red high heeled boots and matching handbag completed the outfit. She paused in front of the mirror and was satisfied with how she looked. Just as she left the bedroom, the doorbell rang and her heart skipped a beat. Nervous, she hurried to answer the door.
David stood there, his coat open to reveal a charcoal grey suit with a black shirt, no tie and a light scarf draped loosely around his neck. He looked incredibly handsome. She saw his gaze travel slowly over her and the admiration in their depths when they shifted back to her face. “You look beautiful,” he said quietly.
“Thank you,” she said, suddenly feeling very shy. Dragging her eyes away from him, she hurried inside to grab her coat, put it on before she pulled the door in and locked it.
They went to a French restaurant in a historic former men’s club across from the Yale campus. She used to walk past this place and never once did she imagine that one evening she would be having dinner with Professor David Mansfield. She looked around, her face beaming. The restaurant was elegant, not stuffy as so many of these fancy types of restaurants tended to be. She was impressed with the high ceilings and beautiful woodwork. When she looked at David, she found him watching her with an amused expression on his face. “Have you been here before?” she asked. “It’s beautiful.”
“No, I’ve never been here before but I know a few people who have and they all had great things to say about it.”
She didn’t know why but she was glad that he had never been here before. They were experiencing something new together. She hoped to have many other such experiences with him.
They shared the appetizer, ordered the same salad and while he had the grilled lamb chops, she had the roasted duck breast. They passed on dessert and had coffee instead. It was a very enjoyable evening. She learned that his parents were in Berlin during the 1936 summer Olympic Games. “The highlight for them was seeing Jesse Owens win four track and field gold medals.”
“Yes, it must have been wonderful seeing history unfold right before them. Have you ever been to Germany?”
“Yes, I have been couple of times. My mother’s family is German. She told me that her parents risked their lives during World War II by hiding Jewish friends from the Nazis. Their names are listed in a museum among other Germans who helped Jews to stay alive under Nazi dictatorship.”
“You must be so proud of them,” she said. “They risked their lives to save lives. I’m thankful that they weren’t caught.”
“Yes. They would have been executed.”
“And you wouldn’t be here with me,” she said. She couldn’t imagine a world without David Mansfield. She thanked God for watching over his parents and protecting them from being discovered by the Germans.
David’s eyes darkened and he covered her hand with his. “I’m happy with the way things turned out,” he agreed. “It would have been a shame if you and I hadn’t met.”
They talked about other, lighthearted things and then it was time to go. When they got back to her apartment, she invited him in. After she locked the door and turned to face him, they watched each other as they removed their coats, not saying anything. The air was suddenly filled with tension—a tension that had begun that afternoon in the café when he held her hand and had been building up all evening beneath the surface and now it was at the surface.
Compelled by a desire too strong to contain, she reached out and dragged off his jacket. Fingers trembling, she unbuttoned his shirt. She couldn’t tell whether it was his harsh breathing she heard or her own. The rest of his clothes followed and he was standing there, with only the scarf draped around him. She removed it and tossed it on the floor at his feet. Then, she stripped and took the pins out of her hair, letting it down so that it fell in unruly curls about her face.
Muttering under his breath, he reached for her pulled her roughly against him, his mouth finding her and plundering it feverishly. She clung to him, kissing him back wildly. For several minutes they stood there, exchanging fiery kisses and then, he scooped her up and carried her over to the rug in front of the electric fireplace where they made passionate love.
After that night they became romantically involved. When the summer holidays came, his son Mark visited and Gloria invited them both over to her place for dinner. She was nervous about meeting Mark but David assured her that it would be fine. Mark was a splitting image of his father, a few inches shorter and lanky. He was very pleasant and he spoke about his studies and how he liked living in Germany. Dinner was a success. They enjoyed it and while she was in the kitchen cleaning up, they relaxed on the sofa.
“So what do you think?” David asked him.
“She’s a lot younger than I expected,” Mark said.
“She was my student,” David told him. “She graduated last year.”
“I like her. Do you love her?”
“And does she love you?”
“Then, I’m happy for you.”
“That’s good to know. I never thought that I would fall in love again. I still think about your mother and I will always cherish the life I had with her.”
“Mom would want you to be happy and it is obvious that Gloria makes you happy.”
David smiled and hugged him just as Gloria joined them.
Mark stood up, looking apologetic as he announced that he had to leave. “I have an early and very busy day tomorrow,” he explained. “Gloria, thanks for the dinner. I enjoyed it. And it was really nice meeting you.”
Gloria hugged him warmly. “It was nice meeting you too,” she said. “I hope to see you again very soon.”
“You’ll see me before I head back to Germany. Dad, let’s do lunch on Friday.”
“Sure thing, Mark.” They clapped each other on the back. “See you on Friday.”
Gloria saw him to the door. When she rejoined David in the living-room, he pulled her down on his lap. “We have his blessing,” he told her.
She smiled, putting her arms around his neck. “I’m relieved to hear that.”
“You’re a bit young to be his step-mother but that can’t be helped.”
Her eyes widened. “His step-mother?”
“Yes.” He reached into the back pocket of his jeans and pulled out a box. He opened it and took out the ring. She stared at it. It was a white gold diamond rose engagement ring. It took her breath away. Her eyes flew up to his face which was becoming blurry. “Will you marry me, Gloria?”
She didn’t trust herself to speak so she nodded vigorously, the tears falling now. And she watched as he slid the ring onto her finger. It was exquisitely beautiful.
David put his arms around her waist. “When I met Alice, I fell in love with her once but with you, it’s different,” he confessed. “Every time I look at you, I fall in love with you all over again. And I will keep falling in love with you for the rest of our lives.”
“Falling in love with you is the best thing that has ever happened to me,” she whispered before she cupped his face between her hands and kissed him.
Source: Union League Cafe
She stood on the pier watching the boats come and go. She was once like an unmoored boat, drifting out into the currents of life because she had no anchor to hold her like the boats fastened to the dock. It began when her parents were killed in a car accident and she had to live with her aunt and uncle.
Life with her aunt was terrible. Her uncle was nice–he treated her with kindness but her aunt was a miserable woman. She kept saying to her, “You are your father’s daughter. You are just like him. No good. He was a good for nothing lout, a drunk and a cheat. I don’t know why my sister ever married him.”
Day in a day out she said bad things about her Dad and her. It got to the point where she stayed out late just to avoid going back to that house. Her aunt thought that she was out drinking and partying with her friends and threatened to kick her out. “I will not have that sort of behavior in my house,” she fumed. It was no point telling her aunt that she hadn’t been doing any of those things. The truth she had spent hours in the library until it closed and then she had gone to the pier to look at the boats and the flickering lights. It was her favorite place. She and her Dad used to go there.
She didn’t say anything in her defense but went on the laptop in the study and started searching for an apartment to rent. Her uncle helped her to find a place and she gladly moved out. She was relieved to be away from her aunt who was a Christian. Her uncle wasn’t one. If Christians were any thing like her aunt, she wanted nothing to do with them.
Of course things didn’t get any better after she moved out. She struggled to get by. She had to do a lot of things for herself–such as cooking, cleaning, laundry, paying bills, etc. Working part-time while studying was a great challenge. Going out with friends during the week was out of the question now. She went out with them on Saturday nights but she got tired of going to nightclubs and bars and meeting guys who had only one thing on their minds.
After she graduated, she got a job at a publishing company and life was improving. She was no longer struggling. She made new friends. It was at a barbecue at one of these friends’ home where she met Jim. Jim was a funny, handsome and easy-going guy. They hit it off right away. They spent most of the afternoon and evening together. He drove her home and they arranged to go out for a bit to eat the following evening. They started to see each other on a regular basis.
When Jim first told her that he was a Christian, she couldn’t believe it because he was the complete opposite of her aunt. One evening he invited her to go to church with him on Saturday. At first she was hesitant but then he persuaded her and she went. The moment she set foot in the church, she was amazed at how warm and friendly the people were. Jim’s parents were there too and he introduced her to them. They invited both of them to have lunch with them after church. She spent a very pleasant afternoon with the family. Like her, Jim was an only child. He and his parents were very close. As he drove her home, he told her that they liked her very much.
Jim studied the Bible with her and she went to church with him very week. Then one Saturday morning, she got baptized. Her uncle went but her aunt didn’t. When she heard that it was a Seventh-day Adventist church, she refused to go saying, “Adventists aren’t real Christians. They are a cult.”
She smiled now as walked along the pier. It was here where Jim proposed to her. It was a beautiful, sunny afternoon. They had just had dinner and had come here afterwards. As they walked slowly along the pier, he suddenly went in front of her and got down on one knee and popped the question. With a happy laugh and tears in her eyes she said, “Yes!” He sprang to his feet and hugged her. For the rest of the night she was walking on cloud nine.
She called her uncle and asked him to give her away. As they drove to the church, he looked at her and said, “I wish your parents were here to see what a beautiful young woman you have become, especially your Dad. He was a good man, Amanda. He adored you. And he was good to your mother. It’s just that things got rough for him and he coped with it the only way he felt he could. You are your father’s daughter and don’t let anyone make you ashamed of that.”
She smiled at him through the tears and squeezed his hand. “Thanks, Uncle Bob.” Yes, she wished her Dad were there that day to walk her down the aisle.
Now she stood there on the pier, anchored in her faith and in her marriage. Yes, she was like one of the boats fastened securely to the dock.
Remember those times when you and he were dating how you used to be on the phone for hours? You never seemed to run out of conversation. There were no awkward moments. The conversation just flowed. And when you were together, the time just seemed to fly because you were having so much fun? And the only times you were not together was when you were at work. There were those occasions when you were with your family but more often than not, you were with him. It was torture being apart and total bliss when you were together. There were times when you would go out with other couples but for the most part, you and he preferred to be alone, enjoying each other’s company.
Things quickly got serious between the two of you and pretty soon you are planning your wedding. The big day finally arrives and you walk up the aisle, your eyes sparkling with excitement. Your heart leaps when you see him standing there, smiling at you. You gaze at each other as the vows are exchanged and then the minister pronounces that you are husband and wife. After you kiss, you stroll arm in arm down the aisle in the midst of a sea of smiling faces. After the reception, you go on your honeymoon where you enjoy a week in paradise, wishing you could stay there for the rest of your lives.
Life is wonderful as you settle into being a wife to your new husband. Then, you have children…
Suddenly it’s no longer just the two of you. Now there are four of you. In my case, there are three of us. When I was on maternity leave, I was so happy when my husband came home. I needed adult conversation and company after spending all day with a baby/toddler. I didn’t feel attractive so I didn’t feel romantic. We didn’t have anyone to babysit and we didn’t feel comfortable getting a stranger to do it so we were stuck. We couldn’t go out for a romantic dinner. We had to settle for entertaining ourselves at home while trying not to disturb our son.
Now, it’s a matter of trying to find time for each other. During the week, it’s a challenge. By the time we come in from work, we are tired. Sometimes we have to prepare dinner. After we eat, we have to spend time with our son before he goes to bed. Then we have to clean up and have our baths. By the time we are finished doing these things, there’s not much time for us to relax. We have gotten into a rut where we end up watching television or a movie instead of spending quality time together. We don’t talk as much as we used to. We are not bonding as we used to. It’s not much different on the weekends. Our son and other things demand our attention. And there is hardly any “us” time.
When a couple doesn’t spend quality time together, their relationship suffers. The spark starts to flicker and if nothing is done about it, it will go out. Ladies, what can we do to keep the spark alive? I came across these tips which I plan to put into action. I hope you will find them helpful too. Instead of writing the tips word for word, I rephrased them as best as I could.
Date Your Spouse
Go out for a date. Set up a date night schedule. This will help you to have quality time together and reconnect after a hectic week. It gives you the opportunity to appreciate each other and to unwind.
It’s nice to surprise your spouse from time to time. It can be as simple as leaving a note on the fridge or flowers at the office or tickets to a fun event. Make a special meal for each other. Dress up sometimes.
Prioritize Each Other
Make time for each other. It’s not easy when you have children but you must make the effort. Without your marriage, there would be no foundation for your family. Besides, you will be setting an example for your children when it comes to good/bad relationships. Set a good example. Make sure that your spouse knows how much you value them and that life wouldn’t be the same without them. Don’t assume that they know this. Tell them.
Show your spouse how much they mean to you not only in words but in actions. Hug and kiss them.
It’s hard to be spontaneous when you are raising a family and juggling so many things at once but it’s a good idea to change things up a bit. Instead of your regular dinner plan, how about having a picnic or eating out? Instead of staying in over the weekend – go out. Be adventurous and steer away from the norm. Spontaneity in your life will help to keep the spark alive (Belief Net).
Add Some Playfulness Into Your Marriage
This is a way of breaking out of a routine. You can sneak in a quickie before making dinner.
Talk to Your Partner
Instead of watching television, talk to each other. Sit outside and enjoy the weather while the kids are in bed (Canadian Living)
Show each other the same respect you did when you were dating. Let others know that it is an honor for you to be with the one you love. Speak kindly and listen to one another again.
You don’t have to give elaborate gifts. A random card with a note letting them know you are thinking about them would do very nicely.
Studying One Another
Ask each other questions like you are meeting for the first time. You might find out that the things you thought were true or what may have been true 20 years ago isn’t the case anymore (What Christians Want to Know).
Talk to couples who have been married for 40 years and over. Find out the secret of their success.
Have fun trying to keep the spark alive in your marriage. If anyone has any tips they would like to share, I would love to hear from you.
There is no greater violence than to deny the dreams of our children – Kailash Satyarthi, founder of GoodWeave
Imagine what it would be like if your son or daughter was forced into child labor. On the Voices of America (VOA) site I saw a photo of five year old Pakisthani girl named Naginah Sadiq. She worked in a brick factory. In the photo she was resting on a bed next to her 8 month old sister Shahzadi on World Day Against Child Labor on the outskirts of Islamabad, Pakistan on June 12, 2012. She was wearing dirty clothes and was barefeet. Her hands and feet were dirty. She looked so tiny. How could she work in a brick factory? This photo was taken three years ago. Is she still working there? Will her baby sister be forced to work once she turns five? Millions of children are forced into child labor in order to support their families.
I’m sure that Naginah would rather be like other children who get to play, have no responsibilities and go to school–things that our own children take for granted. Growing up, I didn’t have to worry about anything. There was always food on the table, clothes for me to wear and I went to school. I didn’t do any housework. I played with my friends or spent most of my time reading and writing. Life was good for me. I had a decent childhood. This is the kind of childhood that children like Kalavati could only dream of.
Can you imagine how eleven year old Kalavati felt when she saw other children playing without a care in the world while she worked alongside her mother? She had been working since she was eight years old. At eight I was probably still playing with dolls. Kalavati had to work in order to support her family. She had no choice. Her father lost his job because someone had performed witchcraft on him, causing him to be mentally disturbed. He stopped showing up for work and then he disappeared. Days, weeks, months and a year passed but there was still no sign of him.
Then one day, while walking through the village, Kalavati’s mother, Bhama saw a crazed looking man, sitting under a tree. He was naked and alone. He had a long beard and at first she didn’t recognize him. Then she realized that it was Deval, her husband. She took him home where he was welcomed by the family who were relieved and overjoyed to see him. The joy didn’t last, though. Deval was not in his right mind. They took him to the hospital to be treated but that didn’t work. He was violent and no one could control him. His story reminded me of the one about the man who was living among the tombs in the country of the Gadarenes because he had many demons. He was violent and no one went near him. Deval began to throw stones at the villagers. He was not the same because of the curse someone put on him.
Tired of dealing with Deval’s violent behavior, the villagers drove the family out of their home. Life went from bad to worst for Kalavati. Now she had no home or support from the neighbors. The family went to the big city where Bhama hoped to find work. For days they lived and begged on the streets until Bhama finally found work as a maid in a farmhouse. Unfortunately, this job was not enough. It didn’t provide the family with the relief they needed. Bhama worked day and night but it was not enough to provide two meals a day. Kalavati helped her mother with the laundry and cleaning of the utensils in the house but all the while she wished she could be like the owner’s children. She saw them studying and wished she could do the same. At that moment education seemed far out of her reach. It was merely a dream that would never come true.
What touched me as I read this story was when Bhama became so discouraged because her husband was not getting well in spite of the treatment he was getting with the money she had borrowed from her employer that she was convinced that the only way to save her family from the ever-growing burdens was to poison them and herself. It was at that moment when God intervened.
It was around this time that the Bridge of Hope staff members visited the family. They listened as Bhama told them that she didn’t believe in God and revealed her plans to commit suicide. They told her about Jesus and prayed with the family.
Bhama had a change of heart about God after her encounter with the believers and when she saw some improvement in Deval. She knew that this miracle could only have been the result of the believers’ prayers. This prompted her to visit the Bridge of Hope center the next day and ask if they would enroll Kalavati. The dream that had seemed impossible for Kalavati became a reality! She attended the center the following week. The staff members continued to ask God to heal Deval and for Bhama to find stable work so that she could provide for her family. God answered their prayers. Bhama found a stable gardening job at the local hospital. Kalavati helps her sometimes but not because she has to.
Kalavati can be like other children. She plays and draw pictures. And she is getting an education. She has something far better than what the children of her mother’s ex-employer had–she has Jesus in her life. Thanks to the Gospel for Asia workers, Kalavati and her family learned about Jesus. She is thriving at the Bridge of Hope center. She has reason now to dance and play with her classmates. The love of Jesus has transformed her world. There is hope now when there was so much despair. Her father is improving a little at a time. He is no longer aggressive and violent toward others. He eats meals with his wife and daughter and attends church with them. Together they worship the One who saved their lives.
Just think, there was a time when Bhama thought there was no hope. She saw no way out of her despair. She saw no end to the family’s struggles. But God does not give us more than we can handle. He sees what we are going through and He intervenes. Thanks to the Gospel for Asia Bridge of Hope ministry, Bhama came to know the God she had not believed in. He had revealed Himself through the changes He had brought into her life. God revealed Himself in a very profound way and helped Bhama to do what she could not do in her own strength.
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble – Psalm 46:1
Pray that God will intervene in the lives of other children who are trapped in child labor or families who are forced to beg in order to survive. You can make a difference. You can sponsor Gospel for Asia’s Bridge of Hope ministry so that they are able to reach out to families like Kalavati’s and share with them the hope that they can find only in Jesus. Or you can sponsor a child like Kalavati and change a family.
With God’s help, you can help Asian boys and girls to be like other children who are free to play and draw and do the things that children do. You can help to protect them from those who would rob them of their childhood and innocence, deny them a bright future and crush their hopes and dreams.
Deliver the poor and needy; Free them from the hand of the wicked – Psalm 82:4