I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye – Psalm 32:8
From the time we are born, our parents are there to care for us. We don’t have to worry about anything. They provide for our basic needs. As we get older, they offer us guidance and instructions. We listen to them most of the time because we know that they want what is best for us. There are times when we want to do things our way and soon learn that our way is not best and can lead us into trouble.
Our parents God’s stewards. He entrusted them with the awesome responsibility of raising us to be godly examples to others. It is no different from the parents we read of in the Bible like Abraham and Sarah, Isaac and Rebecca, Jesse and his wife, Zechariah and Elizabeth and Joseph and Mary. Some of them made mistakes but they trusted in God to help them to raise their children.
God is our Father and like our earthly parents, He takes care of us. He provides for us, teaches and disciplines us. Moses told the children of Israel, “You should know in your heart that as a man chastens his son, so the LORD your God chastens you” (Deuteronomy 8:5). When God does this, it isn’t pleasant, of course just like when our parents spank us or punish us, it feels terrible. It’s painful but they do it because it’s necessary. They want to do away with a behavior or habit that is problematic. According to King Solomon, “He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly” (Proverbs 13:24). Although it may be painful for us, God’s chastisement is motivated by love. “Forwhom the LORD loves He chastens, And scourges every son whom He receives” (Hebrews 12:6).
Parents raise their children as best as they can. They “train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). Some children turn out well while others don’t. Don’t be discouraged when you’re having problems with your child. Continue doing your best and pray. I’ve been having issues with my son lately and this morning when I was worshipping, the Lord put it in my heart to sing, What a Friend We Have in Jesus. These words spoke to me, giving me comfort and encouragement:
Have we trials and temptations? Is there trouble anywhere? We should never be discouraged, Take it to the Lord in prayer.
Discipline is also an expression of love, although, the child might not think so at the time but in retrospect, he or she will see that their parents acted out of love and for their best interest. As parents, we are guides, teachers, disciplinarians, stewards and role models. We have to reflect God’s character if we want our children to be like Him. Parenting is a huge responsibility but it is also a blessing and a privilege.
Childhood is the most beautiful of all life’s seasons – Author Unknown
Remember when you were a child how you used to blow bubbles and your face lit up with excitement when you got really big ones? Oh, the simple things in life that children enjoy. If only they could remain in their little world of wonder, exploration, discovery and innocence.
As a parent, I wish I could keep my son in a bubble where evil people didn’t exist. I wish he didn’t have to be told not to talk to or go anywhere with strangers. Growing up in Guyana, children could play in safety. When their parents weren’t around, neighbors would watch out for them. I lived in a bubble. There were so many things I didn’t know about or was exposed to. I never knew that sexual predators existed or ever heard about pedophilia until I moved to North America. Maybe those things existed but I wasn’t privy to them and I’m thankful for that because I don’t know how the knowledge would have affected my childish brain.
Is it foolish or naive to want to protect your children from what is out there? Are we helping them when we put off telling them about the dangers that exist? There are things I wish I never knew about but would I be any better off living in ignorance? Is ignorance really bliss? Not in this age when lack of knowledge and little or no awareness can make the difference between our safety and harm. Our children need to know that there are dangerous people out there who wouldn’t think twice about harming them or worse…
How do you tell them? You can do it in such a way that they don’t get scared or anxious. My ten year old suggests that the parent tell the child a story because a child would rather listen to a story than hear the message spoken plainly. This reminds me of Jesus who spoke to people in parables when He wanted to teach them valuable lessons.
Other ways to keep our kids safe when they are away from home, school, in the street, the park or playground are colouring pictures, quizzes, activities or stories. Having your child practice ‘Just say NO to strangers’ rule particularly through supervised role play gives him or her the confidence to deal if a stranger approaches and tries to trick them into getting into a car or pretends to have a lost dog or gift for the child.
To find websites that may help parents, teachers or caretakers to teach children about stranger danger and child protection, please click on this link. In the News clip featuring Safety Now – Stranger Danger, parents were disturbed to see how a friendly stranger was able to lure some children away to help him to find his lost dog. At the end of the video, the following tips are given:
Don’t take you eyes off the child
The child should back away
The child should yell and run to a parent
Dr. Phil said that there are steps we can take to protect our kids without scaring them. Here are the steps:
Talk to your kids early and often. Teach them to self-protect. Don’t be afraid that you’ll make them paranoid. Children actually feel empowered when they feel understand that they have the power to protect themselves.
Don’t ask children to deal with adult issues. Explain things in terms they can understand, such as good and evil. Don’t share the gory details with them.
Tell your kids to avoid strangers. Adults just don’t ask kids for directions.
While it’s important for children to respect adults and those in authority, give them permission to act impolite, rude, or scream and yell when they feel that something’s not right. It’s OK for them to make a scene or to yell for help, and let them know they will not get in trouble if they were mistaken.
Teach kids to yell with specificity: “This is not my Daddy!” or “Somebody help me!”
The safety of our children is our responsibility. They have a right to grow up and feel safe.
The arias which always helped him to relax and enjoy his evenings did nothing to quell the uneasiness plaguing him. He switched off the radio and the silence which followed was a painful reminder that he was alone. It was near mid-night and she wasn’t home as yet. Where on earth could she be? He had tried calling her cell many times but it was turned off. When he came home that afternoon, she wasn’t there but he thought nothing of it. She was probably with her friends or at the library. However, as it got late and she hadn’t come home or called, he began to get worried. A couple of hours earlier, he looked across the street and saw a group of young people congregate outside of his neighbor’s home but she wasn’t among them.
He put off calling her friends because he didn’t want to come across as overprotective but eventually, he had no choice. None of them knew where she was but promised to call him if they heard anything. He closed his eyes in despair. Tonight was supposed to be a special one. He was going to tell her that he loved her but first they were going to enjoy the dinner he had prepared for them. It was probably cold by now. Oh, Rebecca, where are you? Why don’t you call me? It was not like her to do this. He was out of his mind with worry.
The last time he felt like this was nine years ago when they were in the shopping mall and somehow they got separated. One minute she was right there beside him and the next she was gone. Frantic, he went through the mall, looking for her until finally, he went to the courtesy desk and asked them to make an announcement.
Ten minutes later, the embarrassed and distressed twelve year old showed up. After hugging her tightly, they left the mall with him holding her hand in a firm grip. He didn’t lecture her right away because she was visibly upset. Suffice to say, they never got separated again whenever they went out together.
He would never forget the first time he met Rebecca. She was eight at the time and it was at the company’s annual summer picnic. Her father brought her with him that year. It was two years after her mother died. She and her father have moved out of the house and to a flat in the old neighborhood where he grew up. He and her father worked together and over the years, they had become very good friends. He always used to tell him, “I hope that Becky ends up marrying a good man like you, Noel.”
Rebecca stared up at him with those huge brown eyes and stole his heart. So, three years later on that fateful day in the hospital when Clyde asked him to become her guardian he said yes. Clyde died two days later and was buried next to his beloved wife. Noel took Rebecca home and raised her as if she were his own daughter. He was thirty at the time.
They had a very close and loving relationship. He took her to museums, concerts, operas, on day trips and the movies. His life was never the same and he was thankful for that. She filled his heart and home with such joy. Whenever they visited her parents’ graves, he would silently thank Clyde for bestowing such an awesome responsibility on him and promised him that he would make sure that Rebecca married a good man.
He knew that she still missed her father, especially when it was his birthday or Father’s Day and she always talked about how conversant he was with movie classics and that it was from him that she developed her love for them. So, whenever it was her father’s birthday or Father’s Day, they would watch old movies on TCM in his memory.
Things continued in much the same vein until Rebecca turned eighteen. That’s when his feelings toward her began to change. It became increasingly hard for him to be around her and not want her. He continued to kiss her on the forehead as they bid each other goodnight every evening but how he ached to kiss her on the lips. He considered sending her away to college in Washington, but quickly squashed the idea because their separation would be unbearable for him. They still spent a lot of time together but he encouraged her to hang out more with people her own age. At first, she protested, preferring to be with him like old times but he insisted so, she acquiesced.
He remembered one night when she came home from a friend’s birthday party and was aghast at the dress she was wearing. Her hair was pulled up in a ponytail, she wore makeup, the gold earrings he had given her as a birthday present and the dress–if you could call it that, was short, hugged her figure and had fine straps. Her cleavage was there for the entire world to see.
His face suffused with color and he took a deep breath before he muttered, “Please go and take off that dress.”
She went and ten minutes later, she was wearing a pair of pajamas, her face was scrubbed clean and her hair fell about her shoulders. She watched him warily. “You’re angry with me,” she said.
He dragged his fingers through his hair as he struggled to remain calm. His heart was racing. He wasn’t upset with her only but with himself because of his body’s response to seeing her in that dress. He was relieved to see her in the pajamas because they were a bit loose on her. “Rebecca, what were you thinking wearing a dress like that?”
“I’m sorry,” she mumbled. “I wanted to look good.”
“Wanting to look good doesn’t mean you should expose yourself like that. That dress was tacky. You’re a beautiful young woman, Rebecca. You don’t need to flaunt yourself in order to fit in. I don’t care if your friends are wearing those kinds of dresses, I only care about you and so, I don’t ever want to see you in a dress like that ever again.”
She nodded. “All right, Noel. I won’t dress like that again, I promise.”
“Do you still have the receipt?”
“Okay. Tomorrow, I would like you to return it. I’m surprised they sold it to you.”
“I’ll return it right after school.” She went over to him, her eyes wide as they met his. She put her arms around his neck and hugged him, burying her face in his chest.
At first he stood there, stiff as a board, unresponsive and then he put his arms around her waist and hugged her tightly, closing his eyes as strong emotions washed over him like a tidal wave. After several tortuous minutes, he extricated himself and put a little distance between them, his eyes dark and stormy as they returned her gaze. “Goodnight, Rebecca,” he said quietly.
“Goodnight, Noel.” She hesitated for a moment and then turned and walked out of the room. He watched her go. He had dared not give her the usual kiss on the forehead because he might have ended up devouring her lips instead.
The loud peal of the phone jolted him back to the present and he grabbed the receiver, his heart thudding. “Hello?”
It was Chloe, one of Rebecca’s friends. “Hello, Mr. Harding. I’m sorry to be calling at such a late hour but I thought you might want to know that one of our friends saw Becky talking to a woman right outside of the university campus. She said they looked like they were having words and then Becky ran off, very upset.”
“Did you friend describe what this woman looked like?”
“She said that she was blonde, stunning and drove a red Porsche.”
His fingers tightened around the phone. Emma. “Thank you, Chloe, for calling and letting me know.”
“Has Becky come home as yet?” She sounded very concerned.
“No, I’m afraid not. When she does, I will have her call you in the morning. Goodnight, Chloe.”
“Goodnight, Mr. Harding.”
As soon as he rang off from Chloe, he dialed Emma’s number, fuming.
“Hello, Noel. Why are you calling me instead of coming over?”
He ignored her question. “Why were you here this afternoon?”
“I stopped by to see you, of course. Where were you?”
“What do you say to Rebecca?”
“Why what did she tell you?”
“I haven’t seen her since this morning and I’m out of my mind with worry.”
“Well, she’s probably doing this to spite you. When I came by, she looked at me as if I were trespassing and when I told her that we were seeing each other, she as much as called me a liar. So, I showed her a photo of the two of us together–you know the one I asked the waitress to take of us when were having dinner at that Italian restaurant? You should have seen her face. I told her that she was only there because of the promise you made to her father–”
“How dare you tell her that?” he demanded furiously. “I agreed to be her guardian because I loved her. She means the world to me. Damn you, Emma. Don’t ever show your face around here again.” He slammed the phone, shaking. He could kick himself for ever getting involved with her.
He went to the window and looked out, his forehead pressing against the glass. It was then in a moment of sheer desperation, that he mouthed a silent prayer, his eyes squeezed shut.
“Noel?” a timid voice called behind him.
Swinging around, he found himself staring at Rebecca. For a moment, he thought it was a figment of his imagination. Had God answered his prayer that quickly? In a flash, he was across the room and pulling her roughly in his arms. “Oh, Rebecca,” he moaned. “Where have you been? Have you any idea of the torment you’ve put me through?” He drew back to stare down into her face. She had been crying. Her eyes were red and swollen. Even now, tears were glistening in them.
“I’m-I’m sorry,” she cried. “I didn’t mean to worry you but I was so upset this afternoon. I had just come home from the library when I heard the doorbell. It was a woman I’d never seen before. She asked for you and when I asked her who she was, she told me that the two of you had been seeing each other. I didn’t want to believe her and told her that she was lying. She showed me a photo of the two of you and I realized that she was telling the truth. I got so jealous and upset that after she left, I left too. I couldn’t stay here. I had to get out and go somewhere–anywhere.
“I went to Daddy’s grave and stayed for a long time, telling him about you and how much it hurt that you were with someone else. On the day after my eighteenth birthday, I told him that I was in love with you and that I’d loved you since I was eight. That day when I first saw you, I thought that you were the tallest and handsomest man I’d ever seen. And you were so kind to me. Next to my father, you were the only other person I really and truly loved. I love my mother but I didn’t know her.
“Anyway, I told my father things that I never told another soul. I know he can’t hear me but it helps to talk about things whenever I visit his grave. I imagine that he’s listening. This afternoon being at his grave didn’t help so I left there and went to the park you used to take me to when I was a child. I sat in the same bench we used to sit on and I wished that you were there so that I could yell at you, let you see how much I was hurting inside.
“After I left the park, I just wandered all over the place, trying to forget about you and her but I couldn’t get the photo out of my mind. You had your arm around her shoulders and you were smiling. You looked happy…” her voice broke and a sob rose from her throat. Tears fell afresh down her cheeks and she tried to push him away.
He caught her hands and held her immobile, his own emotions evident on his face. “She doesn’t make me happy,” he told her thickly. “You do. My life wasn’t complete until you came into it, Rebecca. You filled it with so much joy. The moment I met you, my heart belonged to you. I loved you as a father loves his beloved child but when you grew up, that love changed. It turned into the love a man has for a woman. What I’m trying to say, Rebecca, is that I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you–not as your guardian but as your husband.”
She blinked at him. “You want to marry me?” she asked.
He nodded. “Yes.”
“Oh, Noel,” she cried, her heart in her eyes which were sparkling now. She reached up and kissed him on the mouth.
Groaning, he released her hands and cupped her face between his hands as he kissed her passionately, letting go of all the pent up feelings he had kept bottled up inside for so long. For several minutes, they exchanged hungry kisses and then, he raised his head to gaze down at her, his face flushed and his eyes dark with desire. “I won’t make love to you now although I want to very badly,” he muttered, breathing heavily. “I want us to wait until we are married.”
Disappointment clouded her face. She was on fire and ached for him. “I don’t know if I can wait,” she admitted, trying to catch her breath.
“We’ve waited for four years, so six months wouldn’t hurt–”
“Six months,” she exclaimed. “That’s too long.”
“That’s when you turn twenty-two,” he reminded her.
“I can’t wait until then.”
“What about three months?”
“What about three weeks?”
He smiled. “All right, three weeks, it is.”
She smiled because they had reached a compromise. In three weeks, she was going to marry the man she had loved for most of her life. “I love you, Noel,” she whispered.
“I love you too, Rebecca,” he replied before he lowered his head and kissed her.
Three weeks later, as they faced each other at the altar in front of their friends and his family, he smiled as he imagined Clyde saying to him, “I got my wish, Noel. My girl is marrying a good man.”
“Literacy is a bridge from misery to hope. It is a tool for daily life in modern society. It is a bulwark against poverty, and a building block of development, an essential complement to investments in roads, dams, clinics and factories. Literacy is a platform for democratization, and a vehicle for the promotion of cultural and national identity. Especially for girls and women, it is an agent of family health and nutrition. For everyone, everywhere, literacy is, along with education in general, a basic human right…. Literacy is, finally, the road to human progress and the means through which every man, woman and child can realize his or her full potential.” ― Kofi Annan
Tuesday, September 8, 2015 was an important day for lots of parents and their children. It was an important day for my family. It was my son’s first day back to school. This year he will be in grade 2 . It was wonderful seeing parents and their kids filing into the school. The halls were crowded and noisy as we squeezed our way to the gym where the children were to line up before heading to the auditorium for the greeting and morning prayer. As I looked at the children in their uniforms, I thought of how what a blessing it is to be able to go to school.
September 8 was an important day for another reason. It was International Literacy Day, a day first proclaimed as such on November 17, 1965 by UNESCO. It was first celebrated in 1966 and its objective has always been to highlight the importance of literacy to individuals, communities and societies. The theme for this year was Literacy and Sustainable Societies and the Day marked the 50th anniversary of the World Congress of Ministers of Education on the Eradication of Illiteracy. It is a day when the world is reminded of how important learning is.
International Literacy Day gives children and communities a chance to rediscover the joys of reading while raising awareness for those without access to education.
Can you imagine being a mother and unable to read your child’s school report or help him with his homework because you can’t read or write? What if you couldn’t read the Bible or a bedtime story to your child or a Mother’s Day or birthday card? Sadly, there are women in South Asia who can’t read or write. Can you believe that over 30% of Asian women are illiterate? In fact, more than one out of every three women in Asia are illiterate!
There is hope, thanks to Gospel for Asia’s Literacy Program. Through literacy classes held by GFA supported local Women’s Fellowships, women are learning how to read, write, do basic math, some of life’s most basic lessons, and, most importantly, they are learning how to read and study God’s Word on their own. What a joy it must be to be able to read about a loving God and a Savior who gave His life for them. And better yet, they can read to their children.
So women volunteered to teach literacy classes to other women. The program expanded into several states and two countries, so a standardized curriculum was developed.
In this day and age, it is hard to believe that there are so many people who still cannot read or write. Last year, Gospel for Asia supported the work of missionaries who saw International Literacy Day as an opportunity to raise awareness of the value of women’s literacy and to share the Gospel.
I rejoice at Yourword As one who finds great treasure – Psalm 119:162
Do you want to bring hope to women by helping to make it possible for them to read and study God’s Word? Find out how you can do so here. Reading and writing are basic necessities of life that everyone should have. Women who learn how to read, write and do basic Math will be able to provide for their families. You will be helping a woman to keep her children safe because she can read the warning labels or from being cheated at the marketplace because she knows basic Math. Think of how different your life would be if you couldn’t read your Bible, recipes, emails or letters. Then think of the freedom you enjoy from being literate and how you can help to liberate these women too.
Literacy is not a luxury, it is a right and a responsibility. If our world is to meet the challenges of the twenty-first century we must harness the energy and creativity of all our citizens – President Bill Clinton on International Literacy Day, September 8th 1994
Children are our future. It is our responsibility–no, it should be our mission to provide them with the tools that will enable them to have the future that God meant for them to have. It is every mother’s hope to see her child rise above adversity, poverty and all the social ills that would oppress and impede progress. Every mother has a right to believe that her child can have the life that she wants for him or her. Nothing is impossible, especially when God is involved. Mothers, keep the faith. Teach your children to dream big and to reach for the stars.
It’s every mother’s hope for her child to have a bright future. It was Hannah’s hope that if God were to bless her with a son, he would serve the Lord all of his life. What a wonderful prophet Samuel turned out to be!
While I was carrying my son, I tried to imagine what he would look like. I dreamed that he would have huge dark eyes in a sweet face. I was right. I will never forget the day in the hospital when he looked up at me with those big beautiful eyes. My heart melted, of course. I wanted him to have the best that life could offer. I wanted to keep him safe and care for him as best as I could with God’s help. I am blessed to have a husband who is a terrific father and role model for our son.
My son is seven years old now and nothing has changed. My hopes for his future are still the same. My husband and I want him to have the best education we can afford so that he can grow up and be whatever he wants to be. We encourage him to work hard. I tell him that there are children in other parts of the world who cannot go to school because their parents cannot afford to send them or in some families only one child is able to go to school and it’s usually the boy. I tell him that he has so much to be thankful for. He lives in a house and has his own room while there are children who live in poverty.
Growing up, to me, my mother was very strict, more so than my father. I remember once I wrote a very steamy story that somehow ended up in her possession and I knew I was in big trouble. I was going to get a spanking from my father so I had to think quickly. I wrote another story and when the opportunity came, I switched it with the other one. You can imagine her surprise when she gave my father the letter and didn’t get the reaction she expected. When she read it, she saw that it was a different one. I don’t know what happened after that but the only thing that mattered to me at the time was that I didn’t get a spanking. Over the years, my mother and I became very close. I was very happy when I became a mother and watched as she held her only grandchild in her arms for the first time. It wasn’t until I was older that she said, “You have your own life to live.” Perhaps one day I may say that to my son although a part of me doesn’t want him to grow up. No matter how old he is, he will always be my baby. I take great comfort in the fact that God has great plans for his life.
It’s not easy being a mother. It’s especially hard for the mothers in Asia who are struggling to provide for their families. Imagine your children growing up illiterate, uneducated? Education is the key to alleviating poverty, illiteracy and saving children from social evils like child labor and prostitution. Children are God’s gifts and should be valued. They are not worthless as some would have them think. They are precious and deserve the best.
Although greater involvement by fathers – in all countries and cultures – is one of the most fundamental priorities for improving the care and upbringing of children, it is in practice the mothers who are the principal providers of care. And the first thing to be said is that however much a mother may love her children, it is all but impossible for her to provide high-quality child care if she herself is poor and oppressed, illiterate and uninformed, anaemic and unhealthy, has five or six other children, lives in a slum or shanty, has neither clean water nor safe sanitation, and if she is without the necessary support either from health services, or from her society, or from the father of her children.
The situation for mothers in South Asia sounds very dismal but true to His nature, God has found a way to reach out to them and their children. Gospel for Asia has a wonderful program which can change the despair of the mothers in Asia to hope. It can change the lives of children. Bridge of Hope has helped more than 72,000 children so far and as a result thousands of families have found faith in Christ. We can help a mother in Asia to have a Happy Mother’s day by sponsoring her child. She can see her child get an education, receive a regular medical check-up, wear clean clothes and eat a daily meal.
Nothing pleases me more than to watch my son head into school each morning with his father, carrying a lunch bag and wearing his nice, clean and ironed uniform. I know that he is going to school to learn so that one day, he will have a career and a future. One day, he will be taking his kids to school too. How grateful do you think a mother in Asia would be to see her child walking to school because someone decided to step in and make her hope a reality?
I encourage you to sponsor a Bridge of Hope child in honor of his or her mother. Make this a Mother’s Day a very special one for a woman in Asia. Give her the gift of hope–the hope of seeing her child have a great future.
Hope is the pillar that holds up the world. Hope is the dream of a waking man – Pliny the Elder
Hope is the anchor of our souls. I know of no one who is not in need of hope – young or old, strong or weak, rich or poor – James E. Faust
She is mentioned once in the entire Bible–in a sentence, thanks to Matthew.
While he was sitting on the judgment seat, his wife sent to him, saying, “Have nothing to do with that just Man, for I have suffered many things today in a dream because of Him” (Matthew 27:19). A simple but profound request. We never learn about the contents of her dream but it disturbed her so greatly that she was compelled to warn her husband not to get involved in the plot to have Jesus crucified.
A while ago while attending one of our pre-marital sessions, the pastor explained to my fiance and me the woman’s purpose in a marriage. She is to help her husband; encourage him to go in the right direction; build him up. Pilate’s wife was divinely warned that her husband should leave Jesus alone and she made sure that he knew this. Her words compounded what her husband already knew. He knew that Jesus was innocent and that He was being unjustly accused by men who envied Him. Jesus had done nothing deserving of death.
Unfortunately, Pilate did not do as his wife warned. Pressured by the mob who called for Jesus’ death, Pilate he took water and washed his hands before the multitude, saying, “I am innocent of the blood of this just Person. You see to it” (verse 24). He basically handed Jesus over to His enemies.
Pilate’s wife did her part. She warned her husband. It was up to him to do what was right. If you have information that you need to share with someone share it. You are not responsible for what the person does with the information. You did what you needed to do–the rest is up to them. If you see a loved one heading in the wrong direction, speak up. It’s for that person’s good. Pilate’s wife spoke up. If she had kept silent, she would have been as guilty as her husband who would never be able to wash his guilt and responsibility from his hands.
If God gives you the opportunity to do what is right, grab it. Be like Pilate’s wife who did what she believed was for her husband’s good.