The worst news for a woman to hear is that she will never be able to have children.
Before I watched the episode of Greenleaf where Sophia had a medical emergency which turned out to be Ovarian Torsion, I had no idea that condition even existed. What is it? It is a condition which occurs when an ovary twists around the ligaments that hold it in place. This twisting can cut off blood flow to the ovary and Fallopian tube. Ovarian Torsion can cause severe pain and other symptoms because the ovary is not receiving enough blood.
The symptoms are:
- an adnexal or pelvic mass
- severe pelvic pain
- abnormal bleeding
For Sophia, it was a sharp pain in her side. She first experienced it when she was out jogging then twice on another occasion. The third time was very severe and she was rushed to the hospital where she was prepped with surgery because she was diagnosed with Ovarian torsion. While on an anesthetic drug, she was talked about how her boyfriend, Roberto wanted to marry because at lunch he told her that he respected her boundaries and could see a future with her. Before going under, Sophia was dreaming about weddings, houses with mailboxes, puppies, and babies.
In Sophia’s case, the cause of the torsion were two large ovarian cysts interfering with Sophia’s organs. The doctors fixed the problem but couldn’t preserve the ovaries. Sophia will never be able to have kids of her own. Her mother, Grace had to give her the terrible news which she did. The scene was heart-wrenching when Sophia broke down and cried. Grace tried to comfort her telling her that she could have children another way-meaning adoption and said something to the effect that God’s got her back. Sophia’s response was to wonder why God would let that happen to her.
As with any unexpected and painful life changes, a person’s faith will be tested and Sophia is no different. It will be interesting to see how this plays out. Will she turn away from God or will she cling to Him? And how would her condition affect her relationship with Roberto? Hopefully, he will stand by her.
My heart ached for Sophia, a young, lovely girl whose dreams of becoming a wife and mother one day were crushed. How many Sophias are out there living with the painful reality that they will never be able to have kids of their own? What do you say to someone who found out that she can never have children? You don’t tell that this was God’s will. Let God tell her that Himself. Just tell her that you’re sorry and be there for her. If she gets angry with God, let her. He can handle it. Don’t quote scriptures to her, don’t try to explain why this has happened to her. Don’t be like Job’s friends. They were more comforting to him when they were silent. Just be there for her.
Sometimes, the best way to help someone is just to be near them –