Do you find it difficult to talk things out with your husband when you have issues? Do you keep things to yourself and hope that they get better? What happens when you have an argument or disagreement? Do you blow up at him or give him the silent treatment?
James 1:19 offers this advice: “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath…” A lot of times we do the opposite. We are quick to speak but slow to listen. I am guilty of that. This only causes things to quickly escalate. Decide which one of you is going to speak first. Then, the person should be given all the time needed to say what need s to be said while the other listens carefully. Don’t interrupt. Just listen. When it is your turn to speak, speak.
Another important thing to be mindful of is how we say something. We might not intentionally mean to upset our spouse but sometimes the way we say something ends up causing anger and resentment. Solomon tells us that a soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word does the opposite (Proverbs 15:1, 2). We say what we have to say in such a way that it calms rather than aggravate the situation.
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