Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? – 1 Corinthians 3:16, ESV
A couple of years ago my husband and I were having anal sex. It wasn’t something we ever imagined we would do but at my former job, there were a couple of women who told me that they were having it and they actually preferred it to vaginal sex. To be quite honest, I never thought that heterosexual couples engaged in the act. That evening when I went home, I mentioned it to my husband and after talking about it for a while, we decided that we would try it. I was nervous at first because one of my co-workers had said that if it wasn’t done properly, there could be a lot of pain and I have a very low threshold for pain.
So, my husband read up about it and then, we set aside one night to do it. We did it and it was incredible. It was so highly pleasurable for both of us that we could understand why my co-workers and their husbands enjoyed it so much. So, we decided to do it twice a week. I can’t say that I liked it better than vaginal sex but I really enjoyed it. I didn’t feel ashamed. For me, I was another way for my husband and me to enjoy each other. He always wore a condom, of course and we always showered afterwards.
We tried different positions and found the one which worked the best for us. This continued for several months and then, one night my husband had a dream. He dreamed that we were having anal sex and suddenly a voice said, “Do you not realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who dwells in you and was given to you by God? Why then are you committing this abominable act?” My husband said he was jolted out of his sleep and lay there, shaking.
He told me about the dream in the morning and we both decided that we were never ever going to have anal sex again. It was not of God. It was not something that anyone should engage, especially Christian couples. We’ve heard couples argue that it’s not wrong if it’s between a man and a woman, but we tell them that the vagina was the only opening where a penis belonged. The rectum was not meant to have anything inside it. Nothing should go up there except for medical reasons. The rectum is not designed for entry and thrusting. It is a holding area for the stool and when it is full, it pushes the stool out of the body through the anus.
Anal sex is both be unhealthy and harmful. I read that “when the penis enters the anus, there is high risk of infections and prostate problems. If the penis enters the vagina after having been in the anus, the woman’s reproductive tract can easily become infected” Anal intercourse could lead to fecal incontinence, increased risks of anal cancer, tears of the lining of the colon or the rectal tissue, risk of infection and hemorrhoids.
Professionals have warned against having anal sex because it could cause damage to the wife’s anus and infection to her genitals. Objective studies have shown that anal sex rarely results in orgasm for the wife and often results in pain, discomfort, infection and bleeding. I had orgasms and they were intense but I didn’t feel any pain or discomfort or infection or bleeding. I guess I was lucky.
The Oxford Dictionary defines sodomy as any form of non-vaginal intercourse, and more specifically, anal sex. I wish my husband and I had done more research on the act before we went ahead and did it. I was upset with myself and extremely remorseful about it because it was I who suggested that we tried it. My husband told me that it was a decision that we had made together. For a long time, I felt sick knowing that we had engaged in sodomy. I literally broke down in tears one day and begged God to forgive us for abusing our bodies.
We returned to what was natural–vaginal intercourse and it has been more enjoyable than ever. My husband and I have always had a very healthy and satisfying sex life but we wanted to try something new. However, we immediately stopped as soon as we were told that it was wrong.
Romans 1:26 says that men, left the natural use of the woman to engage in that which is unnatural and shameful, i.e. having relations with one another. What is the natural use of women? It’s vaginal intercourse which is God’s design for sexual activity between a man and a woman. The penis was designed for the vagina, not the anus. So, men should not be leaving the natural use of women to engage in anal sex with them.
I have since spoken to my former co-workers and cautioned them about the health risks of anal sex. A couple of them have stopped engaging in it. I pray that the others will follow suit.