The rod and reproof give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother – Proverbs 29:15
Sometimes talking to your child doesn’t work. Time out doesn’t work. I have been told that some children learn the hard way. It’s embarrassing for mothers when they take the children out to the mall or grocery store and they are forced to give the child whatever he or she wants just to keep the child from making a fuss.
The Bible is not opposed to spanking or whatever necessary discipline it takes to keep the child in line. It is for the child’s benefit that they do not get their own way. It must always be clear that the parent is in charge and the child has to obey. Ellen G. White had the right idea. “Any child that is permitted to have his own way will dishonour God and bring his father and mother to shame….By neglecting their duty and indulging their children in wrong, parents close to them the gates of the city of God.”
The Bible cannot emphasize enough the importance of discipline in a child’s life. Discipline is an act of love. “He who spares his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him promptly” (Proverbs 13:24). Children need and want discipline because they need to know that boundaries exist and that they need to stay within them. These are your child’s formative years so you need to correct him or her while there is still time and hope (see Proverbs 19:18)
Sometimes the best thing a parent could say to a child, is, “No.” Children need to know that there are rules that they need to abide by. Their responsibilities are to follow instructions, obey their parents, teachers and anyone in authority as long as these instructions are never contrary to God’s Word. Wisdom comes from following instructions. Once children do what is required of them, all will be well with them. They will bring honour to God and their parents.