She is mentioned once in the entire Bible–in a sentence, thanks to Matthew.
While he was sitting on the judgment seat, his wife sent to him, saying, “Have nothing to do with that just Man, for I have suffered many things today in a dream because of Him” (Matthew 27:19). A simple but profound request. We never learn about the contents of her dream but it disturbed her so greatly that she was compelled to warn her husband not to get involved in the plot to have Jesus crucified.
A while ago while attending one of our pre-marital sessions, the pastor explained to my fiance and me the woman’s purpose in a marriage. She is to help her husband; encourage him to go in the right direction; build him up. Pilate’s wife was divinely warned that her husband should leave Jesus alone and she made sure that he knew this. Her words compounded what her husband already knew. He knew that Jesus was innocent and that He was being unjustly accused by men who envied Him. Jesus had done nothing deserving of death.
Unfortunately, Pilate did not do as his wife warned. Pressured by the mob who called for Jesus’ death, Pilate he took water and washed his hands before the multitude, saying, “I am innocent of the blood of this just Person. You see to it” (verse 24). He basically handed Jesus over to His enemies.
Pilate’s wife did her part. She warned her husband. It was up to him to do what was right. If you have information that you need to share with someone share it. You are not responsible for what the person does with the information. You did what you needed to do–the rest is up to them. If you see a loved one heading in the wrong direction, speak up. It’s for that person’s good. Pilate’s wife spoke up. If she had kept silent, she would have been as guilty as her husband who would never be able to wash his guilt and responsibility from his hands.
If God gives you the opportunity to do what is right, grab it. Be like Pilate’s wife who did what she believed was for her husband’s good.
Notes to Women 